My joy for today is helping to bring a voice to women.
It is a big day! NPR responded to letters in regards to the gaffe by Mara Liasson, in which she separated educated women and stay at home moms into two distinct groups. She admitted that she misspoke and acknowledged that NPR re-recorded the interview for later feeds of the program.
My blog was quoted in several news outlets, and a paragraph from my original post (https://myjoyfortoday.wordpress.com/2012/04/15/educated-stay-at-home-moms-an-oxymoron/) was used in many articles. I am very proud to have helped give a voice to the many women, just like me, that were sitting alone in their cars, or with their families, or around the breakfast table , and were shocked by being labeled into such separate and insulting categories.
In the days following my post, I had a few negative comments, some alleging that I am perpetuating some “war” between stay at home mothers and working mothers. As I said to this commenter, that is certainly not my intention. The only “war” I may be waging is against a bias in the media towards women, and in particular, against educated, multifaceted, opinionated women, who may choose to be primarily home with their children. I believe that society tends to want to label women into distinct categories, in a much different way than we do towards men. I will not wage a war against the parenting choices of other women, but I will wage one against the tendency to assume that these choices were not carefully and thoughtfully made.
Also, some have said I should “calm down” about this issue; Ms. Liasson only misspoke. Why is it that women are often told to “calm down”? If this error in phrasing had happened against a different disenfranchised group of society, no one would dare tell a proponent of this group to “calm down.” There is a vicious tendency to accuse women of being emotional when we are passionate. This is unacceptable and insulting in the worst way. When I have a right to stand up and be heard, I will do so in an educated, informed, and just enough calm manner as is appropriate.
Today, I have changed many diapers, nursed my child, fed that same child a bottle, made a meal for a friend that had a baby, rode my bike with my son to his piano lesson, had lunch with my grandmother, finished several hours of homeschooling, cleaned the kitty litter, played a game with my kids, did the dishes, watered plants, graded some research papers, responded to e-mails, and wrote this blog, among other things. I am an educated stay at home mother. It’s not an oxymoron.
Enjoy for your joys for today.